‘Ear Stuff’ Is the Sex Trend We Didn't *Hear* Coming

I recently had the unique experience of receiving aural. Yes, you read that correctly. What started as an innocent make out quickly turned into a tongue in ear job. And not just a quick nibble on the lobe, but full-on tongue swirling inside for an extended period of time. I was stunned.

Now if sex were a competitive sport, I'd like to think that I'm somewhat of an advanced player. But this was my first time experiencing this, which prompted me to ask around. I was astonished to find that almost all my straight male friends said they not only loved doing this, but they also loved receiving it, and couldn't believe I hadn't dipped my toes (tongue?) in ear stuff before.

There is something uniquely vulnerable about the ear; in fact, there are about 120 pressure points on just the lobes. They're an uncommon erogenous zone that I think many people forget about. There is also a lot of debate about the uricologenital reflex, which supposedly simulates a nerve in the ear canal that can bring some people to orgasm. (Call me old fashioned, but maybe try with the clit first.)  

There's also probably the argument that a partner could also be trying to "show off" their tongue skills on your ear before they get to take things down south. As in, "wow, look at what I'm doing with your ear hole, can you imagine what I'd do to *other* holes?" You gotta love the enthusiasm.

Like butt stuff before, we are always exploring more taboo territory to help find out what feels good. Think about how you go about discovering a hot new restaurant—you probably read about it from someone who went there first. There are always going to be sexual pioneers out there spreading the word about something they experienced and can't wait to share with the world. And honestly, thank God for them. Eating ass is now as common as a handshake, and we're all the better for it. But remember: Sex trends aren't fashion trends. Sexual preferences are uniquely individual, what one person likes doesn't mean we're all going to be on board. (Consent is always key!) 

For me personally, when I know *it's on* and I'm with a new partner, I love to ask, "What do you like?" And if they aren't sure or are feeling shy, offer some things up! It's good to let your partner know you're curious, open and down. (This is a great way to talk about boundaries as well.) 

From there, try kissing a partner's neck and work your way up to the lobe. Nibbling on the lobe is a great place to start, and as always, check in! Asking someone, "Does that feel good?" or "Do you like that?" is one of the hottest things you can do as a partner. Bonus: Checking in can also help get you more comfortable being vocal in the bedroom as well, so two birds one stone! 

And psst: If you're not into it, don't assume that makes you "vanilla." It's always good to explore your own sexuality and what feels good, that’s the point, right?

Rachel Napoleon is co-host of the podcast Girls on Porn (@girlsonprn).