You, me, your roommates—we're all hopefully sex-positive. But many of us aren't as open about using sex toys as we are, say, our electric toothbrush. (Come to think of it, who really wants to think of their roommate using their electric toothbrush, even?) So, until the time that we are all completely uninhibited and unabashed about all things sexual, I'm all for keeping our use of vibrators as -hibited as possible—in terms of using discreet, quiet vibrators. As New York City sex therapist Stephen Snyder, MD, says, vibrators can be a tool for understanding what strong arousal actually feels like. "You don’t have to work so hard at it," he explains, and he recommends coupling it with fantasy or other sources of arousal.
While a completely silent vibrator is an oxymoron, I've rounded up the best, next-to-silent tools out there. They're all available for discreet online purchase, and the list includes something for everyone (yes, you too, romping couples). My best overall pick is the Lelo Dot ($179; $120) because of how it focuses on the clitoris, is easy to hold and very quiet. So, for all the trips to stay with your parents, house guest invites and even just taking care of business after your S.O. is already asleep, check out our favorite quiet vibrators.
