2 Things You Should Seriously Never Say to a Libra

Libra (September 23 - October 21), our cardinal air sign, is often generalized as “indecisive” or a “people pleaser.” But no matter what your friend who dated a low-vibe Libra might say (or maybe that friend is you), Libras aren’t as a rule bad at making decisions, or codependently concerned with what everyone else thinks. Libras have the gift of being able to consider situations from all sides. Sometimes to a fault. In my experience, Libras are actually very opinionated and even provocative. But the hot takes only come when they’re given enough space to take in the big picture and strike appropriate balance. 

Like all cardinal signs, Libras like to initiate. Libras are here to start the party. And yes, they also sometimes dip early and hate cleaning up afterwards. But trust me, you want to show up to their event. It will be luxurious and well-curated to the upper-echelons of taste. This is also how Libras live their daily lives. And though Libras will always be polite no matter what, here are two things you should never say to a Libra. If you do, don’t expect a future invite.

If you ask your Libra friend to choose the restaurant, without giving them any context, you’re putting them in an impossible position. It’s honestly an act of violence. It’s not that Libras don’t have opinions about where you should go—they read restaurant reviews religiously and curate prix fixe menus in their notes app. But unless you’re giving them the proper set up—the vibes, everyone in the group’s dietary restrictions and location preferences, etc.—they won’t have any idea where to begin. What if someone in the group had a traumatic breakup at that Thai restaurant? What if someone lives so far uptown that the commute alone will ruin her vibes? Even if it’s just the two of you, it’s better to give them a choice “X or Y?” rather than leaving it totally open ended. Especially because if it’s truly their choice, you’re probably going to end up somewhere that you can’t afford. 

A Libra rising myself, I will admit that of all the negative traits associated with Libra in pop astrology, there’s one that is correct: Libras are flaky. But the thing is, Libras only flake out on things that didn’t really matter anyway. I know that’s hard for Taurus and Scorpio placements to hear, but it’s true. Sometimes Libra’s friends will insist that they show up to an event that everyone involved knows will be miserable. Libras are always a great plus-one because they dress for the occasion and are surface-level sweet to everyone. Libras will always be at least curious about what’s going on somewhere. But insisting that your Libra friend be in attendance may lead to resentment. Instead of saying, “You have to come,” try “I would love it if you were there” instead. Trust that even if a flaky Libra takes that as an easy out, they aren’t avoiding you, just the bad vibes.

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