10 Secrets of Women Who Are Eternally Cool
But, like, can we be you?
You know her (maybe you are her). That rare breed of woman who’s so effortlessly cool that you can’t even be envious of her smarts and charm. The good news is, even if you aren’t her naturally, you can steal some of her secrets and get a little bit closer to being that girl.
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They Read a Lot
So they’re current, informed and able to talk about pretty much anything with ease. A good first step: Brush up on some fascinating articles.
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They Speak Their Mind
They have opinions and aren’t afraid to share them. They’re not ones to back down from a spirited debate, but you’ll never see them get too hotheaded. Basically, just be confident in your case.
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They Don’t Complain
Sure, annoying stuff happens to them (like it does to everyone), but cool women typically address observations rather than air grievances.
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They’re Open to New Things
Basically, they’re the friend you don’t have to worry about when deciding to go to a new restaurant or a weird foreign film. Be that person.
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They’re Self-Aware
Cool women know their strengths (and play to them), as well as their weaknesses, which they minimize. OK, so you’re not the most punctual, but you are the funniest when making light of your 20-minute delay to brunch.
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They Don’t Care About Being Cool
This one’s about effortlessness. Don’t look for others to validate your coolness and you’ll seem even cooler for lack of looking desperate.
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They Have Different Hobbies Than Everyone Else
Trends aren’t for everyone. Just because adult coloring is a thing doesn’t mean you have to quit your beloved community garden for it. In fact, you have something different to say at a party now.
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They Build Up the People Around Them
Self-promotion is a buzzkill. Try to make others look and feel good, celebrate their achievements and be OK with not being the center of attention.
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They Handle Stress Well
In tense situations, some people freak out and let their stress show on their face. Instead, stay calm and relaxed, providing a much-needed dose of chill.
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They’re OK with FOMO
The coolest women aren’t always around, lending an air of mystery to their vibe. It’s OK to sit a night out every now and then, which will only leave everyone wanting more. LOMO, ladies.
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